Questions & Answers
Since your adoption profile is such a vital part of connecting you to birth mothers, you may find you have lots of questions. If your questions aren’t covered here, please ask your coordinator.
How do I tell about our children?
Here is an example of how you might word the section about your children and pets: “Hannah is very excited about being a big sister. She often talks about what she and her new baby brother or sister will do when he or she arrives. She is very excited about her new brother or sister meeting and playing with her best buddy, Muffin, our family dog. Hannah and Muffin love to play in our back yard. We have a big back yard that is fenced in. We have a nice swing set, play fort, and plenty of trees for Hannah to play hide and seek behind. Outside time is fun for the whole family.”
How do I write about being a stay at home mom?
Here is how one couple wrote about this: “Being a stay home mom enables Roxanne to help Hannah with learning her ABC’s and computer skills. Hannah loves learning new words to read, and she probably already knows more about the computer than Roxanne. Education must start at home at a very early age. Roxanne is teaching Hannah to sing. Roxanne loves to sing to Hannah who has picked up singing very fast. At bedtime, Hannah likes Roxanne to sing at least three songs and at least three books. Hannah has picked up singing and now loves it as much as Roxanne. Hannah also thinks at four years of age she is big enough to sing those songs by herself. Roxanne tries to get that on video as much as possible.”
Roxanne feels there is no greater investment that being able to stay at home.
Any suggestions from birth moms as to what information is important to them or adoptive parents who have already did this?
For one thing I would address to “Dear Birth Parents”. There are many couples who make this decision jointly. Birth father involvement is just as important.
I would also spend a good deal of time on your values and beliefs, how you feel about child rearing, discipline, your experiences with child.
Put the house, the car and the boat at the end. Yes, it is important that they know you are financially stable, but don’t yammer on about it. I’ve seen some letters where all they talk about is their possessions.
Also talk about how you see the birth parents (and family) fitting into your life. Do you see your connection as a lifelong relationship or an arrangement of sending pictures and letters? This is VERY important.