by adoptforlife | Dec 18, 2018 | birth mothers, open adoption
More and more birth parents are requesting a written agreement, detailing what is agreed upon in regards to post-adoption contact between themselves (and sometimes their family members) and the adoptive parents. Often, both parties may try to have it filed as part of...
by adoptforlife | Oct 30, 2018 | adoption match, birth mothers
Dear Mardie, We have been speaking with a birth mother and are starting to get the impression that she is only choosing adoption because she can get financial help. Should we decline the match because of that? There may indeed be some women whose primary motivation...
by adoptforlife | Oct 16, 2018 | adoption match, birth mothers
Dear Mardie, we have been speaking with a birth mother and she is due in a few weeks, but she feels like she may be getting cold feet. She has mentioned seeing a counselor a few times but hasn’t taken any steps to do it. Should we encourage her to do it? I’m not sure...
by adoptforlife | Oct 9, 2018 | adoption journey, birth mothers
We all have triggers: when someone can ask a question or makes a comment that affects us emotionally. When in the process of building our families, this may manifest differently at various stages. Birth mothers also may have triggers. Understanding what they...
by Mardie Caldwell | Sep 25, 2018 | adoption match, birth mothers
Dear Mardie, we are matched with a birth mother who is in Texas. We live in Idaho. The attorney in Texas said that we will have to stay there at least a week or ten days, and it may be more. We will leave our children with my mother but what do we do while waiting...
by adoptforlife | Sep 4, 2018 | adoption match, birth fathers, birth mothers
5 Tips for Talking to Birth Parents Many adoptive parents-in-waiting feel nervous and suddenly tongue-tied when a birth mother messages them or calls on the phone. It is very common for our coordinators to answer questions like “What do we talk about?” and “Are there...
